In our culture we are not taught to see falling in
love as a spiritual event, yet for centuries that
was the accepted interpretation.
When the question “Where does love come from?”
was asked, the universal answer was God. The lives
of saints of every religion have demonstrated love in
its spiritual dimension; at the same time the humblest
person who fell in love also realized he was treading on
sacred ground. Over the centuries, particularly in
the West, the divine connection was lost.
In spiritual terms falling in love is an opening,
an opportunity to step into the timeless and
stay there, to learn the ways of spirit and
bring them down to earth.
All openings are temporary – this is not a
limitation specific to falling in love. The real
question is, What should we do with the opening?
The highest spiritual qualities – those of truth,
faith, trust, and compassion – grow from
the tiniest seeds of daily experience. How can
we tend this fragile opening of the heart, nurture
it until it develops into more substantial stages of
growth?We must examine romance, the first stage
in love’s journey, as part of a timeless cycle
that brings greater and greater knowledge of
There are four distinct phases of romance:
attraction, infatuation, courtship, and intimacy.
Although not everyone can expect to experience
them exactly the same way, all four naturally
emerge once your feeling for someone else go
beyond friendship to passionate attachment.
These four phases of romance occur in a natural,
linear sequence, but at the same time they come
full circle. Although it happens spontaneously,
falling in love isn’t accidental – there are no
accidents in the spiritual life, only patterns
we haven’t yet recognized.
All love is based on the search for spirit.
.. Adapted from The Path to Love,
.. By Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).