Friday, September 04, 2009

Many people try to substitute “positive thinking”
for the disturbing thoughts they want to
eliminate. On the surface this tactic may lead
to some signs of improvement. The mind can be
forced into identifying only with pleasant or
uplifting things. But in time, the feared thoughts
will surface again, and until then there is
the exhausting effort of trying to maintain
constant self-control.

Many people, in their well-intended efforts to
accent the positive, do not escape their problems
but only increase them. They want to put an end
to suffering but mistakenly choose the tactic of
denying their true feelings, on the grounds that
the feelings are “too negative” to express.

Paying attention to one’s fear and pain is a
great source of guilt in most people because
it seems life self-pity, a trait we think of
as wrong. But denying pity to yourself, when
you would give it willingly to others, is also
wrong. We all have hidden pain inside, and
trying to suppress it is not a virtue. It’s
only an impossibility.

You may consider it very important to maintain
a good attitude, but in itself an attitude is not
very reliable. After all, who’s keeping

whose spirits up? Everything inside you is
just you, even though you might split it up
into a brave you that is trying to suppress or
defeat a fearful you.

Does opposing your negative thoughts lessen
their power? Doesn’t it just delay the day when
they will come out in one way or another?
You probably put in a lot of time not thinking
negatively. It must require constant vigilance
and effort on your part. Yet as soon as
the pressure is off, don’t these denied feelings
rebound with doubled intensity?

Negative thoughts come on their own, even in
the face of our strongest opposition. It’s just
something we all have to accept. The serious
question is, “Can I give the whole game up?”

ஃ Adapted from Unconditional Life by ஃ
Deepak Chopra (A Bantam Book, 1991)

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